Husband Abuse Husband Assault
Let?s break the silence!
ARE YOU BEING ABUSED?
Are you being hurt by your wife or your girlfriend?
Do you know someone else who is being assaulted or abused by their wife or girlfriend?
Does your wife or girlfriend use sex as a weapon to control and intimidate you into getting what she wants?
Does your wife threaten that she is going kick you out of the house, take you to court and get everything, including the kids?
Is the person you love hurting or abusing you?
Is she threatening to hurt you?
Do you feel trapped or scared?
These things are ABUSE.
You can do something about it.
What is husband abuse?
The terms husband abuse or husband assault are used when a woman hurts or threatens the man she is in a relationship with. Husband assault including threatening is against the law!
Assault and threatening includes
? Throwing objects at you.
? Threatening to kill you or destroy your property
? Slapping, pushing or hitting you anywhere on your body
Husband abuse includes emotional abuse such as:
? Insulting the man or treating him badly in front of others.
? Threatening to hurt the man
? Blaming him for things that are not his fault
? Controlling what he does and where he goes
? Threatens to have sex with another man
? Interferes with his relationship with the children.
Abusive women power and control over their partners. Men are being abused every day in our country - young, old, disabled, poor, rich, immigrant men and men who were born in New Zealand. Abuse can start with a slap and a push and end in murder. Children who see their mothers violent and abusive to their partners remember it for the rest of their lives and can become abusive themselves to their children.
This abuse against children and fathers must be stopped.
Children and their fathers have the right to feel safe too.
What you can do to help protect yourself from husband abuse?
Try talking to your wife or partner first and seeking counseling. If this approach does not stop the abuse, then it is a good idea is to tape record the abuse in your home by taping the abuse on a small concealed pocket recorder and recording the incidents of abuse in your home when they happen. This includes abuse against the kids too. Quite often a woman who abuses her husband will abuse the children as well.
Unfortunately, most police officers will not believe you if you tell them that you are being threatened or physically abused and in fact you may be accused of making a nuance call to the police. A tape recording will give the evidence you need to verify that you are telling the truth and to help ensure that the police do their job right.
It is not advisable to leave your home as the woman can, in most cases, get a court order to keep you out of your home permanently. She will usually keep you from seeing your children as another form of control after you are separated. The abuser should be made to leave the home, not the victim.Unfortunately, there are few if any established places where men can go for help.
Although the government has provided millions of dollars to women?s shelters it does not provide men with even the most services when it comes to dealing with abuse. Men and caring people in the community are must contact their government representative and complain about the disgraceful lack of services for man.
Why do men stay with their abusive partners?
Our society makes it very difficult for men to leave women who abuse them. Many in society still refuse to believe that women, who are supposed to be the weaker sex can control or abuse a man. Many others believe that a man should be able to handle any woman.
A man generally remains in a relationship with an abusive women for reasons such as:
It is embarrassing to admit that a woman is abusive. After all men are supposed to be bigger and stronger.
Most men feel a duty and commitment to remain in their relationship. Studies show that it is men who strive to keep a relationship intact, not the woman.
Most men feel that children raised in a home with a father and mother is best for the children.
The woman promises to never be abusive again and begs him to believe her. Most men usually do.
Men feel most responsible for keeping the family together.
Men are aware of the bias in the courts and know that the court system will likely strip them of everything and give it to the woman.
Sex. Many women will use sex to control their partner by threatening to cut it off if they don?t get their way or to give it to lure a man back. Women hold the ultimate control when it comes to basic sexual needs.
There is just nowhere for men to go. There are no government funded shelters or support services for men.
Why do women abuse and batter their partners?
An abusive woman often wants to have power and control over her partner and the whole family including the children.
She may believe that she has the right to control her husband or partner.
She had learned that she can be abusive and nothing happens.
She may feel that she cannot handle the problems in her life.
She may feel powerless and abusing her partner is a form of power.
Our society must show that we will no longer turn our backs on violence, abuse and persecution against men
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